There is a woman under the eaves, which is the word “an”; if there are two women under the eaves, it is difficult to be peaceful. These two women are mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Sociologists based on long-term investigations have found that 4 out of 8 divorced couples each year are caused by conflicts between mother-in-law and mother-in-law, and about 50% of couples have long-term cold war or even separation due to irreconcilable relationships.
Poor mother-in-law relationship is known as a “malignant tumor” that severely affects marriage and quality.
For women in marriage and quasi-marital status, how to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law has become the key to life happiness.
The teachings of the Bible will guide us in how to deal with this crucial relationship in order to win a happy marriage.
First, thinking about each other is often a matter of thinking about each other. The relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law is like a jigsaw. If you only care about yourself, you will definitely miss the small plate, cause problems, and even go wrong all the way.
Only by thinking about each other, avoiding mistakes, and solving problems, can puzzles be spelled well, and everyone will live in harmony.
As the saying goes: “Mother-in-law, family and peace.
“After reading the book of Ruth, you will find that her mother-in-law Naomi, for the happiness of her daughter-in-law Ruth, took the initiative to urge her to return to her maiden house, and even searched for her remarriage.
As a result of her mother-in-law’s love, she moved her daughter-in-law to treat her mother-in-law with love.
Let ‘s look at Ruth ‘s response. First, she admires her and honors her mother-in-law.
This is reflected in her diligent work from morning till night.
Secondly, she asked her mother-in-law for everything and was very obedient.
Third, her unchanging love for her mother-in-law.
Her husband is gone, her love for her mother-in-law is still there, and her heart is resolute. She said: “Death can separate you from me.
“Pray to God to help us, let us see the love between mother-in-law and mother-daughter.
Second, trust each other and treat each other frankly. We know that the alternative to living in harmony is to trust each other and treat each other honestly.
But the reality is not as perfect and simple as we think. Mother-in-law loves to pick her daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law complains about her mother-in-law.
Therefore, our faith needs to go back to the Bible. The Bible tells us: “As you want people to treat you, so do you.
1. The daughter-in-law must learn to cultivate the feelings of mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law rarely talks to her mother-in-law, mainly because she does not treat her mother-in-law as a mother, and even calls her mother in her mouth.Mother.
This idea has been affecting the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law will be filial to herself like her daughter, and the daughter-in-law also wants her mother to take care of herself like her mother.
Seeing her daughter-in-law marry her son and entering her own home, her mother-in-law would have an instinctual expectation that her daughter-in-law should treat herself like her daughter and son, but often her daughter-in-law cannot do this.
After her daughter-in-law married, she changed her name to “mother” and instinctively called her mother and her mother.
2. Give more praise and less criticism. Mother-in-law learns to put down the elders’ shelves. Today’s mothers-in-law often think that current daughters-in-law are happier than when they were their own daughter-in-law.
As everyone knows, this is a feudal idea. The society is different now. The relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law in the new era should be equal.
If her mother-in-law is okay, she will show her daughter-in-law’s face and show her face. It will not establish authority, but will further open the distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If the mother-in-law always has too much dissatisfaction and grievances against her daughter-in-law, she always speaks badly about her daughter-in-law in front of outsiders, and blindly counts how the daughter-in-law is not good for her.The reputation spread.
As the saying goes, “there is no impenetrable wall”, if her mother-in-law’s “propaganda” reaches her daughter-in-law’s ears, even if she is a fair daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law’s frustration will probably complete her mother-in-law.Evaluations became increasingly disrespectful.
The bad ones can be heard in the daughter-in-law’s ears, and the good ones are the same.
If the mother-in-law chooses to treat the juniors with a tolerant heart, even if they are really wrong, it is very wise to win the respect and respect of the daughter-in-law.
Third, the lubricating effect of “double-sided tape” “Double-sided tape” is actually the name of the man sandwiched in the middle.
It was him who was the most difficult to fight.
Both the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law wanted to make him stand by his side, but no one could help him. He helped his mother-in-law scold him for marrying his daughter-in-law and forgot his mother, and he helped her mother cry and said that he never took her to heart.
So, what should this man with sandwiches do?
He will play a very important role in reconciling and buffering in the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
In the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and mother-in-law, if he can handle it properly, he can strengthen the emotional connection between mother-in-law and mother-in-law, otherwise, it will easily become the focus of the contradiction.
As “double-sided tape”, you must understand: first-class men reconcile, second-class men evade, third-class men get angry, and fourth-class men add teams.If there is a contradiction between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law, you should find the cause from yourself.
It ‘s just that some men do n’t know that it ‘s difficult to get stuck between two women, but do n’t want to. Mothers and wives, after all, do n’t know and spend as much time as you do, and they definitely affirm their own rules of life and way of thinking.From the point of view, they may all feel that they are justified. The only person who can mediate is you. You must take responsibility, not shirk or run away in quarrels. You must resolve things and make a sense of balance.
Today you will always be one of these roles: mother-in-law, daughter-in-law or “double-sided tape”. Only by continuing to do what you should do, the family relationship can be virtuous. Through the efforts of each role, the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law can be a win-win situation.